compatability
i've been struggling lately with blogging material. i can talk with the best of them about life, love, and other mysteries -- but lately, i've had a hard time finding any interest in writing about any one certain thing. things in my life aren't really very exciting right now - a lot of weddings, and a lot of preperation for the move that's coming up. (37 days to be exact. and i still don't have a job.)
i was looking through my old emails last night, trying to clean them out a bit. i tend to keep things for way too long and needed to get rid of some things i had saved. i did the same with my dresser drawer where i keep sappy things that mean something to me at a certain time in my life. i threw away cards, letters, little notes, etc. of former lovers and it was really cathardic. anyway, i came to an email i had that has been there for nearly 3 years. when i joined match.com in 2002, they had you take a profile test. here are my results:
You're a woman who celebrates life You're a very down-to-earth woman who believes in enjoying the good things in life. Life should be "balanced" with lots of time for fun, spontaneity, and romance. You refuse to settle long-term for a boring job or doing something just because it's expected of you. Love is the same way. You can't pretend to care for someone if you're missing a deep connection. You have lots of friends who really enjoy hearing your jokes and great stories. In fact, you put the ones you love ahead of everything else. You're ready and able to experience romance and a powerful "spark" with someone special. Your biggest challenge may be finding time to connect given your busy (and often frantic) life.
Finding a loving relationship is an ongoing journey for you. You try to learn from each date and new experience and move on. Falling in love comes naturally to you. It doesn't have to make sense. You're ready to "go with the flow" and see where it leads. Because you thrive on new adventures and excitement, long-term relationships can be boring. And when you're bored, you typically try to shake things up. Deciding when and with whom you're ready to "settle down" is a special challenge for you.
Like all women, you have your strengths as well as your quirks and shortcomings. Ultimately, you want to find someone who will love and accept you "warts and all." Though you have lots of friends, it's important to have at least one person in your life who understands. You have such a positive attitude that at times your upbeat mood may irritate those who think you're "too happy" or aren't taking problems seriously. At times you can get so caught up in a conversation that you talk more (and louder) than most people. Because you're a big-hearted woman, at times you can be swayed too much by emotions and a desire to keep your friends and family happy.
WHO YOU'RE LOOKING FOR
He'll be an enigma You're looking for a man who really enjoys life and can bring fun and excitement to your relationship. He's charming, flirtatious and tells great jokes. No wonder all his friends adore him! He brings a lot of energy to everything he does. Typically, he goes with the flow and believes in living in the here and now. At times, this free spirit can make him difficult to pin down to make plans. Still, life with him will never be dull, since he loves to "shake things up" and constantly try new things. Overall, it's important for you to be with someone who is almost always cheerful and has an optimistic outlook on life. The ideal person you're seeking shares a number of positive qualities with you, including:
He's energized by going out and spending time with friends. He'd get bored and restless if the two of you spent every night alone together.
He believes in letting life happen and not being too pinned down by doing any one thing.
Men with the exact type of personality you prefer are rare gems. Looking at over 10,000 men who have taken this test, only 6% (or 1 in 17 men) have the exact combination of similarities and contrasts in personality you find extremely appealing. However, there's a larger group, 25% (or 1 in 4 men), who have most, but not all, of the qualities and habits you like. The qualities you find attractive (and unattractive) in men suggest you would certainly be happier with a man who's more like you.
No very strong opposites were detected, which suggests that you are most attracted to men who are very similar to you. This is good news since similar couples tend to stay together longer.
Quirks you can tolerate:
The truth is that everyone is potentially "high maintenance." We all have our quirks and shortcomings. The key to long-term harmony is finding a man who can tolerate (or maybe even enjoy) your "quirks," or the little personal oddities that make you unique. You seem okay with several common quirks that might come along with your "ideal" man:
You understand that he really enjoys conversation and will often talk more (and louder) than you prefer.
You won't be too bothered by the fact that he always has multiple projects and hobbies going on, with few ever finished. Downside of your "ideal" In addition to his quirks, your "ideal" personality type may have other qualities that are more frustrating or challenging to deal with. Under stress, his quirks can become serious "flaws." But remember, these quirks are the "flip side of the coin," or the extreme end of qualities you otherwise find appealing.
You seem ready to adapt to the good and frustrating qualities of the men you're looking for, but there are types of men you clearly do NOT like. Men's habits and attitudes you'd have a hard time putting up with include:
Men who don't talk much and rarely want to go out for the evening.
Men who are "touchy-feely" (need to discuss their emotions frequently, may cry at movies, etc.) and make major decisions, like whether to move, or which job to take, based on feelings rather than objective facts.
SEX
Lots of sensual fun. You have a voracious appetite for sex. As you probably know, you have a higher sex drive than most! To you, spontaneity, playfulness and fun is what sex is all about. You're probably a skilled lover and know how to make even the "basics" incredibly sensual and fun. Among women your age, your particular combination of sexual drive and interests is similar to about 1 in 5 women (21%). Is he sexually compatible? You're looking for someone who really enjoys the "basics" sexually. You value the quality of sex, even if it means the quantity or frequency of sex is lower than you'd like. What's ahead for you sexually? If you end up with a man less sexually charged than you, you'll have two options: open up your partner's "wild," sexual side or settle into a relationship with somewhat less sex, but more affection. You're not the type who likes to fight or make things complicated. Instead, you'd rather compromise. You might focus on quality rather than quantity. Overall, you're a sensual person who knows how to make every sexual experience hot and fun.
i was looking through my old emails last night, trying to clean them out a bit. i tend to keep things for way too long and needed to get rid of some things i had saved. i did the same with my dresser drawer where i keep sappy things that mean something to me at a certain time in my life. i threw away cards, letters, little notes, etc. of former lovers and it was really cathardic. anyway, i came to an email i had that has been there for nearly 3 years. when i joined match.com in 2002, they had you take a profile test. here are my results:
You're a woman who celebrates life You're a very down-to-earth woman who believes in enjoying the good things in life. Life should be "balanced" with lots of time for fun, spontaneity, and romance. You refuse to settle long-term for a boring job or doing something just because it's expected of you. Love is the same way. You can't pretend to care for someone if you're missing a deep connection. You have lots of friends who really enjoy hearing your jokes and great stories. In fact, you put the ones you love ahead of everything else. You're ready and able to experience romance and a powerful "spark" with someone special. Your biggest challenge may be finding time to connect given your busy (and often frantic) life.
Finding a loving relationship is an ongoing journey for you. You try to learn from each date and new experience and move on. Falling in love comes naturally to you. It doesn't have to make sense. You're ready to "go with the flow" and see where it leads. Because you thrive on new adventures and excitement, long-term relationships can be boring. And when you're bored, you typically try to shake things up. Deciding when and with whom you're ready to "settle down" is a special challenge for you.
Like all women, you have your strengths as well as your quirks and shortcomings. Ultimately, you want to find someone who will love and accept you "warts and all." Though you have lots of friends, it's important to have at least one person in your life who understands. You have such a positive attitude that at times your upbeat mood may irritate those who think you're "too happy" or aren't taking problems seriously. At times you can get so caught up in a conversation that you talk more (and louder) than most people. Because you're a big-hearted woman, at times you can be swayed too much by emotions and a desire to keep your friends and family happy.
WHO YOU'RE LOOKING FOR
He'll be an enigma You're looking for a man who really enjoys life and can bring fun and excitement to your relationship. He's charming, flirtatious and tells great jokes. No wonder all his friends adore him! He brings a lot of energy to everything he does. Typically, he goes with the flow and believes in living in the here and now. At times, this free spirit can make him difficult to pin down to make plans. Still, life with him will never be dull, since he loves to "shake things up" and constantly try new things. Overall, it's important for you to be with someone who is almost always cheerful and has an optimistic outlook on life. The ideal person you're seeking shares a number of positive qualities with you, including:
He's energized by going out and spending time with friends. He'd get bored and restless if the two of you spent every night alone together.
He believes in letting life happen and not being too pinned down by doing any one thing.
Men with the exact type of personality you prefer are rare gems. Looking at over 10,000 men who have taken this test, only 6% (or 1 in 17 men) have the exact combination of similarities and contrasts in personality you find extremely appealing. However, there's a larger group, 25% (or 1 in 4 men), who have most, but not all, of the qualities and habits you like. The qualities you find attractive (and unattractive) in men suggest you would certainly be happier with a man who's more like you.
No very strong opposites were detected, which suggests that you are most attracted to men who are very similar to you. This is good news since similar couples tend to stay together longer.
Quirks you can tolerate:
The truth is that everyone is potentially "high maintenance." We all have our quirks and shortcomings. The key to long-term harmony is finding a man who can tolerate (or maybe even enjoy) your "quirks," or the little personal oddities that make you unique. You seem okay with several common quirks that might come along with your "ideal" man:
You understand that he really enjoys conversation and will often talk more (and louder) than you prefer.
You won't be too bothered by the fact that he always has multiple projects and hobbies going on, with few ever finished. Downside of your "ideal" In addition to his quirks, your "ideal" personality type may have other qualities that are more frustrating or challenging to deal with. Under stress, his quirks can become serious "flaws." But remember, these quirks are the "flip side of the coin," or the extreme end of qualities you otherwise find appealing.
You seem ready to adapt to the good and frustrating qualities of the men you're looking for, but there are types of men you clearly do NOT like. Men's habits and attitudes you'd have a hard time putting up with include:
Men who don't talk much and rarely want to go out for the evening.
Men who are "touchy-feely" (need to discuss their emotions frequently, may cry at movies, etc.) and make major decisions, like whether to move, or which job to take, based on feelings rather than objective facts.
SEX
Lots of sensual fun. You have a voracious appetite for sex. As you probably know, you have a higher sex drive than most! To you, spontaneity, playfulness and fun is what sex is all about. You're probably a skilled lover and know how to make even the "basics" incredibly sensual and fun. Among women your age, your particular combination of sexual drive and interests is similar to about 1 in 5 women (21%). Is he sexually compatible? You're looking for someone who really enjoys the "basics" sexually. You value the quality of sex, even if it means the quantity or frequency of sex is lower than you'd like. What's ahead for you sexually? If you end up with a man less sexually charged than you, you'll have two options: open up your partner's "wild," sexual side or settle into a relationship with somewhat less sex, but more affection. You're not the type who likes to fight or make things complicated. Instead, you'd rather compromise. You might focus on quality rather than quantity. Overall, you're a sensual person who knows how to make every sexual experience hot and fun.
so, in case you skimmed through - here are the highlights: according to this thing, i am fabulous but i'll have a hard time finding someone because the man i want is a "rare gem."
great.
it's a good thing i don't put all of my hopes and dreams into the people at match.com!
happy tuesday
posted by red at
10:39 AM
