deep thoughts

"all men are assholes, and all women are psycho.  it's just a matter of finding someone that doesn't push the buttons that make you, as an individual, act like one or the other." this is something i have believed for a long time, and it stands true.  i know that i am not real "girlie."  i.e.  i'm not high-maintenence, not whiny, i'm blunt, and straight-forward.  definitely not psycho.  most of my ex's would support that 100%.    i say most, because there was one i dated that knew how to push my buttons and make me act like a raving lunatic.  i'm ashamed to admit it, but once upon a time, i acted like a psychotic loon.  you know, calling a thousand times in a row when he doesn't answer his phone, freaking out over something he did or said when he really didn't mean it that way... you get the picture.  in my defense, i acted crazy because he made me that way.   i'm generally a very trusting, non-judgemenal kind of gal.  just don't do something to break the trust i have in you.. it's pretty simple.  ANYway, so i'm dating this guy nowadays, and things are going along very smoothly.  he is great/  we have a lot in common, he makes me laugh, he is ambitious, loyal, tall, built like a brick house, and most importantly -- he does not make me act like a psychotic loon.  ahhhh, life is grand.  this brings me to my next point: why is it, that when you're dating someone and it's starting to get kinda serious, do all your ex's come out of the woodworks?  do they have alarms that go off inside them?  wtf?  i have been dating current guy, we'll call him "Bob", for about 3 months.  (I have a fabulous story to tell you about how we became "us," but i'll save that for another post.)  this ex-boyfriend madness started about a month ago.  i have received sober calls, drunk calls, emails, text messages, etc. from what seems like EVERY MAN I'VE EVER DATED.  mind you, i'm on good terms with most of them, so it's not uncomfortable - just so bizarre.  men i haven't even thought about in years are calling wanting to "get together for lunch or dinner" or "just go have a few beers and catch up on things"  ... you get the point.  what is this?  i've had to shoot them all down politely for obvious reasons.  i don't think Bob would like me going out to dinner or having drinks with some guy i used to f*^k.  i know i wouldn't like it.  in fact, if Bob tried doing that - i'd probably turn into the psychotic loon lady.  no bueno.  so, what gives?  has anyone else had to deal with this issue?