friday the 13th
i was born on a friday the 13th, so the susperstition existing over this day has never bothered me. i often think of it as a better day than all the rest. come to think of it, i'm not really very superstitious regarding anything. i don't freak out around black cats, i would open an umbrella indoors if i needed to, i walk under ladders, i spill salt, etc., etc.
however, one thing i do believe in , is that there is power in your words. i am reading a book about it, and have already seen the manifestation of it. let me 'splain.
when you are daydreaming about something -- you do do not have ownership over those thoughts... they cannot produce anything positive nor can they hold you captive in negitivity. however, if you speak it - those thoughts then become your own. saying outloud what you want, what you need, etc., will eventually bring those things to pass. now, i'm speaking logically.... not declaring that i have a million dollars. more like saying every morning "i am a beautiful person." that is something simple, but if you say it enough.... you will begin to believe it. the opposite can also happen. like if you say how ugly you are, what a loser you are, etc., ... that is how you will feel inside.
i volunteer with teen girls here in town, and one of the things we try to teach them is about self-image and how important that is. when they first come to us, we make them write down 25 positive traits/characteristics about themselves. (try it!) it is also a mandatory excersise for each one of them to confess something positive about themselves every time we meet. (once a week.) they are encouraged to declare these things every morning at home, and i have honestly seen 180* changes in these girls' attitudes... even in the way they carry themselves. it is amazing. it also works on other people. the simple act of telling someone "you look nice today" or "you are important to me" will change thier day for the better. julia roberts said in pretty woman, 'but the bad stuff is easier to believe." that's not necessarily true -- it's just that we're more likely to hear the bad stuff. a lot of parents are not uplifting to their children - they do not exhort them - instead, they push them to be what THEY want them to be, or rather what they never were. this happens in adult relationships, too. friends/lovers.... if we made it a point to speak positive words over those that are important to us, and over the relationship we have with them... i believe it would change things drastically. instead of speaking out of anger or frustration -- take a deep breath, and speak out of love and respect. it's really such a simple concept, but something so hard for this generation to do. it has become fun to complain and moan about things... it's become fun to speak harsh things to each other.. just as long as we do it through sarcasm, so the blow is a little bit lighter. right? i'm not saying that i abide by this all the time. hell-ooooooo.... you have read my rants about co-workers! but it is something i am practicing in relationships that are important to me. my friends, my family, and ultimately -- myself.
i could go on and on... but i think you understand where i'm going. i challenge each of you to make a conscious effort to guard your mouths - even if it's just one day. i promise you -- it will make a difference!
however, one thing i do believe in , is that there is power in your words. i am reading a book about it, and have already seen the manifestation of it. let me 'splain.
when you are daydreaming about something -- you do do not have ownership over those thoughts... they cannot produce anything positive nor can they hold you captive in negitivity. however, if you speak it - those thoughts then become your own. saying outloud what you want, what you need, etc., will eventually bring those things to pass. now, i'm speaking logically.... not declaring that i have a million dollars. more like saying every morning "i am a beautiful person." that is something simple, but if you say it enough.... you will begin to believe it. the opposite can also happen. like if you say how ugly you are, what a loser you are, etc., ... that is how you will feel inside.
i volunteer with teen girls here in town, and one of the things we try to teach them is about self-image and how important that is. when they first come to us, we make them write down 25 positive traits/characteristics about themselves. (try it!) it is also a mandatory excersise for each one of them to confess something positive about themselves every time we meet. (once a week.) they are encouraged to declare these things every morning at home, and i have honestly seen 180* changes in these girls' attitudes... even in the way they carry themselves. it is amazing. it also works on other people. the simple act of telling someone "you look nice today" or "you are important to me" will change thier day for the better. julia roberts said in pretty woman, 'but the bad stuff is easier to believe." that's not necessarily true -- it's just that we're more likely to hear the bad stuff. a lot of parents are not uplifting to their children - they do not exhort them - instead, they push them to be what THEY want them to be, or rather what they never were. this happens in adult relationships, too. friends/lovers.... if we made it a point to speak positive words over those that are important to us, and over the relationship we have with them... i believe it would change things drastically. instead of speaking out of anger or frustration -- take a deep breath, and speak out of love and respect. it's really such a simple concept, but something so hard for this generation to do. it has become fun to complain and moan about things... it's become fun to speak harsh things to each other.. just as long as we do it through sarcasm, so the blow is a little bit lighter. right? i'm not saying that i abide by this all the time. hell-ooooooo.... you have read my rants about co-workers! but it is something i am practicing in relationships that are important to me. my friends, my family, and ultimately -- myself.
i could go on and on... but i think you understand where i'm going. i challenge each of you to make a conscious effort to guard your mouths - even if it's just one day. i promise you -- it will make a difference!
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