weekend update

hola. my weekend was pretty uneventful. i worked friday night, and went out with the wife afterwards for our usual one or eight cocktails at the local pub. saturday, she had a hair appointment and i went with. we woke up about 10 minutes before her appt, so no time for a shower. when we got there, we asked one of the stylists if he would wash the 'bar skank' off of me. big mistake. me = in a hair salon....with gay hairdressers.... they ALWAYS want to play with my hair and i ALWAYS think it's a good idea. ugh. pictures will be up soon - just as soon as i learn how to fix it. today, it's in a ponytail. my hair is naturally very curly.... like i have ringlets curly. the stylist straightened it, and then cut and styled it. it was FABULOUS for that day, but now that it's back to the curliness, it's a bit hard to control. he also cut some very hip, jagged bangs. cool when my hair is straight, i'm not sure how it looks with the curliness. he also cut about 3 inches off... and now i feel like i look a bit like the comedian, Carrot Top. (so far from the truth, but whatever. women exaggerate.) anyway, that night - i went to dinner at the best, most expensive steakhouse in tulsa. my steak was over-cooked. ugh. i don't like to make a scene anywhere, so i just ate it -- but GEEZE. if you're giving your right leg for an 8 oz filet -- one would think they could cook it MEDIUM RARE. not medium. after dinner, we were going to try out a new salsa club that just opened. too bad after dinner, it was still only 945. i didn't want to wait around for another hour for people to actually show up, so we'll ahve to go again at another time. it looks very mexican-ish from the outside, so it should be fun. :) 'Rojita' always has fun in the presence of Latin men. in other news, i have decided to definitely move back in with the wife come march. sister's husband is coming home, and it will be time for me to give them some space. he waited 2 hours to use the phone last night, just so he could tell her he couldn't wait to get home and do the dirty. lol. poor guy. he wil have been involuntarily celebate for 9 months by the time he gets back. my sister will be walking bowl-legged for a while, me thinks. happy monday.

happy friday! good news about MFM and the wife. he went home last night, and they had a semi-civil conversation. both have agreed to work on things -- each promising to do specific things. yadda yadda. i hope they can at least tolerate each other until after the baby is born and she can get back on her meds. life will be a lot different for both of them then. thank jebus for drugs. in other news, i think i am going to visit my cousin who lives 2 hrs from Raleigh in a couple of months. if i like it -- i am NC bound. :-) i'm so excited about getting away. even if it's just for a little while. i need a change. a major one. have a great weekend, and i'll leave you with these words of wisdom: *The statistics on sanity are that one out of every four persons is suffering from some sort of mental illness. Think of your three best friends, if they're okay, then it's you.*

stuck in the middle

good morning. happy thursday. so, those of you who have been reading for a while might remember MFM. if not, you can read the tiny bit i wrote about him here. anyway, the situation with his wife (who is also my friend) has progressed and they are now talking seriously about divorce. AND she is 5 months pregnant. while they both come to me with questions -- he asks for my opinions and advice all the time, and she keeps things mostly to herself. yesterday, he sent me a lengthy email listing specifics about the relationship and how he was at his rope's end with being the only one trying to make this work. she has sent him emails stating "she doesn't know why she isn't trying" and things of that nature. so, it's not like she doesn't know she isn't trying. it is the most bizarre situation. i DO NOT understand why she is donig this, other than she is not on her meds (she took Lexapro until she found out she was preggers) and is not in her right mind. i mean seriously, who would think that was a good decision? there is no infedelity, no abuse - nothing to warrant the request for a divorce, especially when there is a baby on the way. augh. people are so stupid sometimes. so, here i am -- stuck in the middle of something that is completely none of my business. i don't know every facet of their marriage, nor do i have a degree in psychology..... so i have no right to say to one or the other "this is what you should do." i hate being in the middle of it. i have enough drama in my own life --- but in all honesty, i find i am better with giving advice to other people than i am at taking my own advice. meh. if there were not a baby, things would be completely different..... i would say, take your losses and run. they haven't been happy in a year. BUT, that is not the case. i think they should suck up their pride and realize that they made a commitment to each other. UGH. people do not take marriage seriously anymore. thank jebus i have never been married.

ugh

so, chompy's mom died suddenly yesterday. sadness for her. they weren't close at all, but she was understandably upset because she didn't have a chance to say good-bye. times like that make you want to call everyone you love and tell them that you do. :( in her absence, i will be taking care of her territory. what makes this worse, is hacky is moving this weekend and is taking off thursday, friday, monday and tuesday. guess who gets to do her work, too?? ME, that's who. so, if i fall away for a few days.... just be good friends and send me some valium. happy wednesday.

102

i completely missed my 100th post, and did not give it a proper celebration..... so, today we'll just have to celebrate #102. 102's not quite as monumental, but hey -- whateva. so, YAY for me for passing that mark. it's all about the benjamins. hehe *******WARNING******* i am about to talk about birth control pills, so boys feel free to scroll down to the next paragraph. i have been using Seasonale for several months now, and quite honestly - i hate it. the hormone levels are higher than normal, and you take them for 3 months straight. bonus -- i only have an actual period 4 times a year. downside -- there are so many hormones running through my body that i feel crazier than normal and the breakouts on my face are out of control. also, you still get all the symptoms i.e. PMS, bloating, etc. so not worth it to me. so, i called my gyno today and are having them switch me back to ortho-tricyclen lo. ladies, do you have any other suggestions for good BC? ok - so anyway.... does anyone know anything about raleigh, NC? this is one of my location options, but i haven't been there since i was 18.

ah, the 90's

i'm listening to my launcast.com radio, and it's on "The Best of the 90's" station....... is it bad that i know every song that has played..... and i like them all??? recently, they've played: "I'd Die Without You" - P.M. Dawn (whatever happened to those guys?) "You Give Love a Bad Name" - Bon Jovi "Faith" - George Michael "Say it Ain't So" - Weezer "November Rain" - GnR I HEART THIS STATION

finally friday

happy friday! does it seem like this is the longest week ever, or is it just me? i am so tired today! i went dancing for a couple of hours last night, and i can totally feel it. WHEN DID I GET SO OLD? i was at home and in bed before midnight, but you'd think i'd stayed out all night long. i'm on my second cup of coffee to try to keep myself awake through the day. and of course, this is the day that all the idiots call and need help. i do a LOT of customer service at my job, and i'm getting really excited about the opportunity for a career change in a few months. i'll be in a different location, with a different job, and a fresh new start. that sounds so awesome to me. anyway, the wife has some company coming in this weekend so we'll be entertaining. tomorrow night will consist of dinner and dancing, as there's really nothing else to do in THIS GOD FORSAKEN TOWN. i'm not bitter, really.. i'm not. that's about all i got for now. have a great weekend!

ladies night, and strip clubs

hello and happy thursday! a few years ago, thursdays were my most favorite day of the week. only one more day until friday, AND it is ladies night here in t-town. oh yes, i used to be quite the social butterfly. every week, you could find my friends and i out on the town on any given day of the week..... but thursdays were by far my favorites. there was, on more than one occasion, at time when i would be dancing and thinking "i'll NEVER get tired of this!" my, how times have changed. i've gone from staying out til 2am at least 3 nights a week, to maybe grabbing happy hour once a week and being home by 7. lol. anyway, met a group of girl friends last night for happy hour, and an interesting scenario came up -- i'd like your opinions, simply out of curiosity. here's the situation: one of the gals has been seeing this guy for about a month. they have decided to date excusively and things have been going great. yesterday, she called and he didn't answer but then quickly sent a text message reading "we're at *insert strip bar here* having lunch. will call you after lunch." over 4 hours later, he calls and is surprised that she is a bit irritated. she rarely calls HIM, and was just wanting to verify plans for her to drive up to have dinner that night. (they live in different cities.) we all had different opinions and advice to give. i justified her irritation by saying that no matter what your issue is, there is one thing in that scenario that would piss any girl off. being a girl who doesn't have issues with strip clubs, i would not be offended by the location ... but my source of irritation would be that he said he'd call after lunch and it took him 4 hours to do it. if he had said, "i'll call you later" it's totally different. but he could've walked outside, called and been like yeah, we're gonna hang out for a while.... did you need something? anyway .... how would you handle things? boys..... would you have done anything differently?

i'm not a psycho

a simple little test that i, thankfully, failed: Read this question, come up with an answer and then scroll down to the bottom for the result. This is not a trick question. It is as it reads. A woman, while at the funeral of her own mother, met this guy whom she did not know. She thought this guy was amazing, so much her dream guy she believed him to be just that! She fell in love with him right there, but never asked for his number and could not find him. A few days later she killed her sister. Question: What is her motive in killing her sister? (give this some thought before you see the answer) Answer: She was hoping that the guy would appear at the funeral again. If you answered this correctly, you think like a psychopath. This was a test by a famous American Psychologist used to test if one has the same mentality as a killer. Many arrested serial killers took part in the test and answered the question correctly. If you didn't answer the question correctly, good for you. If you got the answer correct, please let me know so I can either not talk to you, or just be extra nice to you from now on.

well, i hope those of you who were off yesterday had a nice, long weekend. i was at work, and per my usual monday -- swamped. eesh. STOP THE MADNESS. the only personal time i had yesterday, i used to write a fairly long email that had been post-poned for a while. the weekend was fine.... took the wife to get her lasik surgery saturday morning. i got to watch the whole thing, so that was pretty cool. i'd seen it done several times on Discovery channel, but being right there... i got to smell the burning cornea. yummy. we got home, she went to bed, and i watched some movies and ate pizza. oh yeah, i was very productive. watched Van Helsing for the first time, and Napolean Dynamite again. i've lost count on that one. "idiots!" so, my sister's husband is coming back in march instead of may, as we had originally been told. yay for her - she is really excited. i am excited for her, too, but part of me is a little bit sad. i know that's selfish -- but she's been ALL MINE since august. it's been nice to have her around all the time, and when he gets back - i won't see her nearly as much. not very often at all, actually. oh well, it will get me used to not seeing her - that way, when i move this summer it won't feel like i'm severing my arm off to leave her. :) so, i'm moving back in with the wife come march. we are signing a 6 month lease, and i'm outta here in august. woot! haven't decided where yet, but have it narrowed down to a few cities. i am so excited i can barely stand it! i was always the person people thought would move away from here, and really do something with my life. here i am at 26, and still live within 45 minutes of where i grew up. there is something completely wrong with this picture. argh. so, those of you who would like to offer up location advice -- feel free. :) happy tuesday!

# 96

my favorite dave matthews song is from the album Crash, and is titled #41. he couldn't think of what to call the song and it was the 41st song that he wrote. tid bit of DMB trivia for Friday, inspired by my post title. i got nothin, folks. i have been super busy this week at work and i'm seeing no light at the end of the tunnel. argh. this is the busiest time of the year for us, but it should start slowing down within the next couple of months. i hope, anyway. i miss my email/IM/blog friends! :-) the wife is having lasik surgery tomorrow, and that is probably the most exciting thing going on this weekend. i know.... so boring, right? i plan on going to see Elektra at some point, though. woot! happy friday -- have a safe weekend. happy MLK Jr day - i hope most of you get to have the day off UNLIKE ME.

so, i joined a gym last week. and not only is it a gym - it's for women only. they just opened it a block from my work building, so it's extremely convenient. more convenient = more likely i'll actually go. the reason i went in the first place was because they had a sign advertising unlimited tanning. so, i went in to see how much -- lo and behold there is a gym there. i paid no attention to the "shape express" sign on the door. lol. so, i got a membership, free unlimited tanning, infra-red sauna, aqua massage, and personal training all for the low price of 39.99. yeah, yeah - whatever. at least i know i'll have free tanning whenever i want to go. :) i actually worked out yesterday, though. i'm so proud of myself. i've gone from someone who used to be in tip-top shape (i used to run 10 miles a day) to someone who breathes heavily after climbing a few flights of stairs. ugh. time to get back in shape, i say. i figure if i can go at least 2 times a week, i'll feel like i'm at least making an attempt to being more healthy. on that note, i'm going to finish my donuts. hehehehehe

mike, mike and me

i just finished reading a book by wendy markham that i just couldn't put down. the book was about a gal, torn between two men - both happened to be called Mike. it was published by red dress, and is on the national best seller list.... so, i figured it had to be good. boy, was i right. ladies - if you like to read -- definitely pick this one up. weekend was pretty uneventful. i worked friday, went out saturday night and pretty much did nothing but eat and watch t.v. yesterday. i would have pictures to post from saturday night, but my camera is dead. i just need batteries, but have failed to get any since i realized i had no juice. that was last week. can we say SLACKER?? the wife had a date with a guy she met while partying on NYE. he was really cool and seemed to be pretty into her, so all is good for now. ask me in 2 weeks and if she still likes him.... he might be a keeper! back to the book..... the main character revisits the past and wonders what might've been if she had chosen the other man. as i lay in bed wide awake last night, i was thinking about how basically every decision effects your life in some way. it is almost overwhelming to think about it. i'm only in my mid-twenties, and looking back on some of the decisions i've made... my life would be TOTALLY different if i had made different choices years ago. i am facing several major decisions right now, and contemplating the different "what if's" last night had me in a bit of a tizzy. i'm such a believer in going with my gut instinct, but on situations that are more important i tend to want to think things through. this is bad for me. i drive myself crazy trying to decide what is best for all parties involved. i have always been a giving, nurturing person and on more than one occasion, i have made decisions solely because i knew that is what the other person(s) involved wanted. argh. sometimes i need to be a bit more selfish and base my decisions by determining what's best for ME. this is something i've decided to really work on. call it a new years resolution, if you will. :) happy monday!

123

so, i'm curious to know how many posts i have - and i see that blogger stopped counting at 68. hrmmm. i'm at 93 (yes, i counted) and i'm wondering how to fix that little problem. any ideas? i stopped to get gas this morning, and noticed that i didn't have my check card with me. argh. i got a new wallet, and forgot to make the all-important transfer of my cards. gas stations don't take checks, so i'm kinda screwed. my only plan is to go to albertsons and write a check for over the amount. i bought some banana nut muffins and some orange juice, and wrote a check for 28.87. that's quite an expensive breakfast. :) anyway, i head back over to the gas station, and i pre-pay for $20. oh my goodness. all the pumps were running reeeeaallly slow this morning for some reason, and it took me literally 15 minutes to pump gas. as i sat impatiently waiting for the STUPID dial to get to 20.00, i wondered how it would be if we ever had a gas shortage or something. maybe this has happened, and i was just too young to remember or something..... but wouldn't that be awful? i drive a gas guzzler and would not be able to go anywhere! in other news, the sooners forgot to come out and play the national title game last night. bah!

NYE pics

here are some pics of the NYE bash. my friends are hot. :)